Saturday, February 2, 2019

BEARING ONE-ANOTHER'S BURDENS







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I am very grateful to the makers of these three videos and wanted to share them
The facebook page of the creator can be found at: https://www.facebook.com/removedfilm/or view here. You may need to click 2 times.

I was adopted from a European orphanage and had a disrupted childhood due to family instability. As adults my wife and I foster parented a sibling group of similarly traumatized and emotionally reactive children. I have developed a great deal of resilience related to the events of my past, but to this day, I continue to be triggered. The pattern of the behaviors depicted is very accurate and honest, and the video story combined with the personal narration and flashback memories effectively captured the tangled but predictable logic that drives the chaos and injury these children and their families experience. More importantly it does so without presenting simplistic solutions or controlling judgments about either. It just leaves the tension and chaos hanging there in the air, which is truly the reality of the experience. But more than anything, I appreciated the redemptive solutions. This truth is painfully accurate in as much as both foster child and parent join together in learning and modeling resilience, both emotional and relationally often in mutual woundedness, the reality of consistency in strong but unselfish love proves to be the right medicine. Most of us would do almost anything to avoid experiencing the insecurity, self doubt, and fear that frequently consumes the hearts of these children. But in reality until the pain is known and experienced mutually we are often unable to model the solution.
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